1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:00,000 2 00:00:16,309 --> 00:00:18,849 Hello , Andrew . How are you ? I'm good , 3 00:00:18,858 --> 00:00:21,528 ma'am . How are you doing ? I'm very 4 00:00:21,538 --> 00:00:23,868 well . Very well . Good . So , what's 5 00:00:23,878 --> 00:00:25,989 going on ? Well , I wanted to talk to 6 00:00:25,999 --> 00:00:28,166 you because as you know , I just got a 7 00:00:28,166 --> 00:00:31,030 promotion um and as part of this new 8 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:32,984 job , I need to do a lot of public 9 00:00:32,984 --> 00:00:35,207 speaking and I'm a little nervous about 10 00:00:35,207 --> 00:00:37,151 that because I don't have a lot of 11 00:00:37,151 --> 00:00:39,373 experience . Um So I wanted to get your 12 00:00:39,373 --> 00:00:41,484 advice because I know that you have a 13 00:00:41,484 --> 00:00:43,707 lot of experience in that area . Well , 14 00:00:43,707 --> 00:00:45,540 thank you for thinking of me and 15 00:00:45,540 --> 00:00:47,484 congratulations on the promotion . 16 00:00:47,484 --> 00:00:50,979 Thank you . Um One of the things that 17 00:00:51,180 --> 00:00:54,680 I often do is practice makes perfect . 18 00:00:55,290 --> 00:00:59,130 Ok , so , uh maybe going in front of a 19 00:00:59,139 --> 00:01:02,349 mirror for instance , or in front of 20 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,269 your family , you know , and , or pet 21 00:01:05,279 --> 00:01:07,629 even . Ok . Yeah , I don't have a pet 22 00:01:07,639 --> 00:01:09,806 but I could , I could practice with my 23 00:01:09,806 --> 00:01:12,139 wife . Um Why , why practice in front 24 00:01:12,150 --> 00:01:14,440 of a mirror ? Well , one of the key 25 00:01:14,449 --> 00:01:16,393 things is you wanna make sure that 26 00:01:16,393 --> 00:01:18,449 you're , you're looking at the whole 27 00:01:18,449 --> 00:01:20,616 audience , you don't wanna focus in on 28 00:01:20,616 --> 00:01:22,616 just one person . OK , scanning the 29 00:01:22,616 --> 00:01:25,029 entire audience OK . Yeah . No , that 30 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:27,262 makes , that makes sense . Yeah . And , 31 00:01:27,269 --> 00:01:30,150 and another thing that is , um , good 32 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:32,104 to do . So , one of the things you 33 00:01:32,104 --> 00:01:34,669 write verbatim out what you wanna do , 34 00:01:35,250 --> 00:01:38,550 um , or say right ? And then when 35 00:01:38,559 --> 00:01:40,615 you're writing it out , you actually 36 00:01:40,615 --> 00:01:42,837 have some notes to kind of refer to but 37 00:01:42,837 --> 00:01:45,003 don't read verbatim . But that way you 38 00:01:45,003 --> 00:01:47,170 have your notes and you can just , you 39 00:01:47,170 --> 00:01:49,503 know exactly what you're gonna say . Ok ? 40 00:01:49,503 --> 00:01:51,670 Yeah . No , that , that makes a lot of 41 00:01:51,670 --> 00:01:53,670 sense . I'm gonna try some of those 42 00:01:53,670 --> 00:01:56,003 things and um see how it goes . Um Yeah , 43 00:01:56,003 --> 00:01:58,003 I , I appreciate your help . I knew 44 00:01:58,003 --> 00:02:00,059 you'd be the the right person to ask 45 00:02:00,059 --> 00:02:02,226 about this . Thank you and good luck . 46 00:02:02,226 --> 00:02:02,069 Thanks . 47 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:11,767 Hello , Senior chief E A . How are you 48 00:02:11,767 --> 00:02:13,989 today ? I'm doing very well . Melissa . 49 00:02:13,989 --> 00:02:16,044 How are you ? Oh , I'm doing great . 50 00:02:16,044 --> 00:02:18,156 Thank you . Thanks . So , yeah , it's 51 00:02:18,156 --> 00:02:20,267 been a while since our last session . 52 00:02:20,267 --> 00:02:22,378 That's right . And I'm really excited 53 00:02:22,378 --> 00:02:24,544 to come back and see you again . Thank 54 00:02:24,544 --> 00:02:26,600 you . Me too . Thank you . So , what 55 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:28,822 would you like to talk about today ? So 56 00:02:28,822 --> 00:02:31,639 I just got a new promotion at work that 57 00:02:31,649 --> 00:02:33,371 will require me to do a lot of 58 00:02:33,371 --> 00:02:35,538 presentations and I get really nervous 59 00:02:35,538 --> 00:02:37,649 when I do any kind of presentations . 60 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:40,250 Yeah . Well , first of all , 61 00:02:40,250 --> 00:02:42,250 congratulations on your promotion . 62 00:02:42,250 --> 00:02:44,250 Thank you . Thank you very much . I 63 00:02:44,250 --> 00:02:46,470 appreciate it . So you mentioned being 64 00:02:46,479 --> 00:02:49,229 nervous . What does being nervous look 65 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:53,139 like to you ? So I get very generally 66 00:02:53,210 --> 00:02:56,529 inside and uh I become less articulate 67 00:02:56,539 --> 00:03:00,160 uh than normal . So 68 00:03:00,169 --> 00:03:02,389 what would success look like to you at 69 00:03:02,399 --> 00:03:05,500 the end of our session ? I definitely 70 00:03:05,509 --> 00:03:07,860 wanna make sure that I uh I do have a 71 00:03:07,869 --> 00:03:11,240 plan uh on how to manage my nervousness 72 00:03:11,250 --> 00:03:14,580 uh during any presentation . And so 73 00:03:14,589 --> 00:03:16,600 what have you done in the past to 74 00:03:16,610 --> 00:03:19,270 manage your nervousness and jitteriness 75 00:03:19,279 --> 00:03:21,699 uh before presentations ? I've done a 76 00:03:21,710 --> 00:03:24,270 lot of uh looking in the mirror and how 77 00:03:24,279 --> 00:03:26,789 did that work out for you ? They 78 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:29,022 definitely help me and uh but I do need 79 00:03:29,022 --> 00:03:31,189 a plan . I , I know I need a plan . So 80 00:03:31,189 --> 00:03:33,411 you know what I mean ? And I do have to 81 00:03:33,411 --> 00:03:36,979 have a plan . So what does an 82 00:03:36,990 --> 00:03:40,169 articulate less jittery plan look like ? 83 00:03:44,940 --> 00:03:47,539 I definitely look in the mirror and you 84 00:03:47,550 --> 00:03:51,539 know , I , I have 85 00:03:51,550 --> 00:03:54,179 to write out what I want to say on cue 86 00:03:54,190 --> 00:03:58,000 cards . Yeah , I think I , that that 87 00:03:58,009 --> 00:04:00,342 would , that would be , that would help . 88 00:04:00,342 --> 00:04:03,559 What else ? I also wanna be sure to 89 00:04:03,570 --> 00:04:06,059 look at everyone in the audience . Um 90 00:04:06,070 --> 00:04:07,130 and also 91 00:04:09,380 --> 00:04:12,419 right on top of every key card , what I 92 00:04:12,429 --> 00:04:15,470 want to say , I think that will help . 93 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:16,960 Definitely . 94 00:04:19,468 --> 00:04:23,320 Yeah . Mhm . Yeah , if you don't 95 00:04:23,329 --> 00:04:25,640 mind , I heard that big sigh of relief . 96 00:04:25,649 --> 00:04:27,519 It seems like you might be more 97 00:04:27,529 --> 00:04:29,640 comfortable with giving presentations 98 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:32,489 already . I I am II , I am , I'm really 99 00:04:32,500 --> 00:04:34,556 excited and I think I have a blind . 100 00:04:36,100 --> 00:04:38,156 Well , you definitely did it . Uh We 101 00:04:38,156 --> 00:04:40,267 unpacked this together , but this was 102 00:04:40,267 --> 00:04:42,322 definitely all you . How do you feel 103 00:04:42,322 --> 00:04:44,544 that we met your goal today ? I think I 104 00:04:44,544 --> 00:04:46,600 feel a lot more energetic . I have a 105 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:48,544 plan to make sure that I don't get 106 00:04:48,544 --> 00:04:50,433 nervous and I thank you so much , 107 00:04:50,700 --> 00:04:53,579 Melissa . Like I said , you did it . We 108 00:04:53,589 --> 00:04:54,750 just unpacked it together .